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This is in response to Amanda's latest post on her blog. Please visit Blonde Girl to see what I am referring to.
Okay, I'm not one to judge anyone. But I totally disagree with her post. Not just because this particular boy in question is an EXTREMELY good friend of mine. But every now and then things happen. A little background, this guy who Amanda went out with in actuality is really shy. It was a big deal for him to call her. And despite the fact that he really wanted to go out with her, there was a lot of coaxing to be done in order for him to build up the confidence to call her.
Also, for the not knowing where they are going, I've been on many a date where the guy asked me to hang out and I've had to chose the restaurant. Not because I'm a controlling little bitch, but because guys are extremely indecisive. It has nothing to do with the fact that he didn't know what do, but merely with the fact that he was so nervous he didn't want to suggest a place where she didn't want to go. He was trying to be considerate. Not everyone has Herculean confidence, and little things can sometimes be really hard to do.
I think I'm going to take this point by point, so heading onto number 2. If someone used to be an ex-drug dealer, you know what that probably wasn't one of their proudest moments. But say that they kept this a secret? Would you want to know in the beginning, or let's say you get serious and something comes up down the line. Would you rather be shocked and betrayed after you've been with them so long, or know in the beginning and although you might not like it, have the chance to get over it and not judge them on their past, but look at what they are doing now?
Number 3: This goes back to being nervous. When I'm nervous, I blab on and on and on and on about the things that I know about. Maybe that's what this kid felt like what going on. You don't know. I don't know if anyone has ever seen a picture of Amanda, but she's an extremely pretty girl. If I were a guy who were out on a date with her, and I hadn't known her for very long. I'd be nervous and end up talking about the things I know something about. I know absolutely NOTHING about cars. I've been on dates where the guys talk about cars and nothing but cars for the entire time we're together. I've been on a date where in the middle of December, it's freezing out, and this kid and I are driving, someone with a nice car pulls up along side of him, they proceed to drag race down this road. Then at the stop light, rolls down, MY window and asks the kid what kind of engine is in it. How's that for inconsiderate? Also, I ended up dating him for 9 months.
Number 4: The only thing I have to say for this is that if someone was against drinking, would you expect your date not to have a drink? I mean they aren't making you do it, so what's the problem. I don't know, I just have problems with judgement on someone has different interests than you. Even though they are illegal, what's the problem.
Number 5: This is inexcusable. I mean come on, a drunk person is NEVER fun. Especially on a date, unless I am one of the drunk people, then the night inevitably gets more exciting. But I do agree with Amanda on this one.
Now, just to say one last thing. I didn't write this blog to say that I think Amanda should give this guy another chance. If she didn't like him, then I'm no one to force her to go out with him again. But my intention was to say that just because you don't like something, doesn't mean that other people don't like it. Granted, drugs are a bad bad thing, but you know what, everyone has their vices, and if they chose that, then that's fine. But oh well, what can I do? I vented. Just so you know, this kid, despite a lingering drug habit is one of the nicest, sweetest, kindest people that I know.
Come on kids, let me have it. I know it's coming.
Okay, I'm not one to judge anyone. But I totally disagree with her post. Not just because this particular boy in question is an EXTREMELY good friend of mine. But every now and then things happen. A little background, this guy who Amanda went out with in actuality is really shy. It was a big deal for him to call her. And despite the fact that he really wanted to go out with her, there was a lot of coaxing to be done in order for him to build up the confidence to call her.
Also, for the not knowing where they are going, I've been on many a date where the guy asked me to hang out and I've had to chose the restaurant. Not because I'm a controlling little bitch, but because guys are extremely indecisive. It has nothing to do with the fact that he didn't know what do, but merely with the fact that he was so nervous he didn't want to suggest a place where she didn't want to go. He was trying to be considerate. Not everyone has Herculean confidence, and little things can sometimes be really hard to do.
I think I'm going to take this point by point, so heading onto number 2. If someone used to be an ex-drug dealer, you know what that probably wasn't one of their proudest moments. But say that they kept this a secret? Would you want to know in the beginning, or let's say you get serious and something comes up down the line. Would you rather be shocked and betrayed after you've been with them so long, or know in the beginning and although you might not like it, have the chance to get over it and not judge them on their past, but look at what they are doing now?
Number 3: This goes back to being nervous. When I'm nervous, I blab on and on and on and on about the things that I know about. Maybe that's what this kid felt like what going on. You don't know. I don't know if anyone has ever seen a picture of Amanda, but she's an extremely pretty girl. If I were a guy who were out on a date with her, and I hadn't known her for very long. I'd be nervous and end up talking about the things I know something about. I know absolutely NOTHING about cars. I've been on dates where the guys talk about cars and nothing but cars for the entire time we're together. I've been on a date where in the middle of December, it's freezing out, and this kid and I are driving, someone with a nice car pulls up along side of him, they proceed to drag race down this road. Then at the stop light, rolls down, MY window and asks the kid what kind of engine is in it. How's that for inconsiderate? Also, I ended up dating him for 9 months.
Number 4: The only thing I have to say for this is that if someone was against drinking, would you expect your date not to have a drink? I mean they aren't making you do it, so what's the problem. I don't know, I just have problems with judgement on someone has different interests than you. Even though they are illegal, what's the problem.
Number 5: This is inexcusable. I mean come on, a drunk person is NEVER fun. Especially on a date, unless I am one of the drunk people, then the night inevitably gets more exciting. But I do agree with Amanda on this one.
Now, just to say one last thing. I didn't write this blog to say that I think Amanda should give this guy another chance. If she didn't like him, then I'm no one to force her to go out with him again. But my intention was to say that just because you don't like something, doesn't mean that other people don't like it. Granted, drugs are a bad bad thing, but you know what, everyone has their vices, and if they chose that, then that's fine. But oh well, what can I do? I vented. Just so you know, this kid, despite a lingering drug habit is one of the nicest, sweetest, kindest people that I know.
Come on kids, let me have it. I know it's coming.
posted by Allison at 9:46 AM
7 Comments:
I agree with Allison, he was very, very nice guy. For the most part, conversation was good and all but he just wasn't for me. I know when it comes to the whole drug thing I have a very strong opinion, and that is only because I've had really bad experience with drugs. I really don't want to judge him based on his past but drugs were a big part of his life and that's a world I know nothing about.
On the other hand, I don't totally agree with number 4.. drinking and drug use are 2 totally different things.. and I did explain I am very anti-drug.... now just to clear up something else I do have friends that smoke and they know not to a. do it in front of me and b. talk about it. so with that said it's clear that he wasn't for me.
don't pay any attention to amanda she's just mad because he can out talk her even when he's all stoned!!
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Damn you Hee!!! LoL I can out-talk anyone!!
i don't think so baybee... i mean you sed it yourself you can't compete with yourself... with someone out talking you. that's never happened before.. is the world coming to an end?? *dun dum dummmmmmmmmmmm*
I must concur, I think that the blunt smoking is less on par with having a drink with a teatotaler and more along the lines of telling someone, "I am a chronic masturbator...I know this isn't really socially acceptable but I am going to have to do it on our date." You know the person is not going to be comfortable so why even do it?
Honestly I think there was a lack of basic respect. This was a first date situation and there are just some things you don't do. Namely, masturbate and illegal drug use.
I still love you Allison! Don't stop stretching and toning! I need a partner!
Allison, are you M.I.A.????? Where are you?! I love you and I don't want you to hate me!!!!!!!!!!!! Come back to me!!!!!!!!!! PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! AHHHHH!! For the love of God!!!!!! (That last one was just for effect!)
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